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Our inner strength and emotional evenness
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Working Well
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99% of stress is generated internally by the beliefs we hold about situations. Stress is the over arousal of emotion; every time we feel stressed we are feeling a negative emotion of one kind or another, in an overdone way. (Ekman, 2013)
- Describe what typically happens for you after you have experienced negative or stressful events? How would you like this to be different?
- Is there anything you have tried that helps you bounce back more effectively? What are your emotional triggers?
This is an issue of emotional resilience, having the inner resources to bend, flex and come back to normal in the face of adversity without being overly disrupted or allowing events to take a disproportionately large emotional toll. Our inner resources have a tendency to be depleted by unhelpful thoughts and feelings that in turn may have unhelpful effects on our behaviour and on our bodies (physical symptoms of feeling upset).
- What thoughts do you have when you are feeling upset that may be unhelpful or exacerbating the difficult emotions and stress? How might you challenge these thoughts? Even if they are objective and realistic, they are still unhelpful to your recovery.
Suggest reframing, distraction. Some constructive and balanced reflection on painful experiences can help us to develop greater self-insight and accountability for our part in difficult events, but ruminating and getting stuck can lead to an over-arousal of unnecessary anxiety.
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- You’ve said you feel depressed at work… are you okay to talk about this with me or would you prefer not to?
Seek permission, if not gained then must provide referral with STRONG recommendation to put in place, and then follow up on this after the initial feedback session – duty of care.
We purposefully use the word ‘depressed’ in a way that allows others to interpret in their own way.
- Whilst momentary feelings of being sad and down play a normal part in our emotional repertoire; being depressed such that it interferes with how well you are able to lead your life is a condition for which effective professional help is available and should be sought. I am keen to explore whether this is what you meant or whether you feel or know you are suffering from depression as an underlying illness?
Depression can be an illness or a mood. Symptoms of ‘depression’ (the illness) include fatigue, exhaustion, sadness, feelings of emptiness, helplessness and hopelessness, an under-arousal or slowing down of energy, motivation, brain and body. These difficulties can lead to unhelpful thoughts, feelings and behaviour that may lead in turn to a reduction in effort, leading in turn to further deterioration to thoughts, feelings and behaviours – a downwards spiral. It is vital to distinguish ‘having depression’ from ‘feeling depressed’ in mood.
Have referrals to clinical psychologist, psychiatrist or other mental health provider to hand, and handouts with the depression checklist. Urge to seek support. Stimulating the brain and increasing activities even when we might not really feel like it, is more helpful than resting and inactivity when depression is an issue.
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- You’ve said emotions get the better of you at work – in what way do you feel this is so?
- To what extent have you always tended to be this way, versus this being a more recent phenomenon for you? If latter, how much is to do with what is going on in your life and at work in this moment?
- What are the triggers for your emotions and how do your emotions manifest?
- What have you tried as strategies to better regulate your emotions in the workplace?
- Think of someone you know who manages to control their emotions in a way that is appropriate – what are they thinking/doing/saying?
Also see question below on developing ‘inner calm’
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- What is triggering your self-doubt? (May blame others for this)
- As you mature in life, one of measures of success is weaning yourself off the approval of others. What can you do to maintain your own self-esteem for yourself?
- Accept that others may never be able to give you what you want from them – for example, looking to your boss for positive feedback or encouragement might be like going to the butcher and asking for a loaf of bread. Not ever in stock!
- What do you think of your own performance and contribution and what insights, feedback and endorsements do you get from others?
- Stop holding on to the source of frustration or worry – think of these as actors on the stage that need to move off. Let it go.
NB may be worth noting that many respondents to date are identifying this as a ‘red flag’. Whilst we are getting a sense of this being a common theme, begging the question as to why, it’s also important to encourage the respondent to consider the questions above and seek to build their sense of self confidence.
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- Is this a general and recurring issue, or something more specific and isolated that you feel bad about? What sorts of bad feelings? What thoughts do you have about this? What are you saying to yourself?
Guilt is a strong and distressing feeling, often associated with shame or its nicer cousin embarrassment. It can be hard to throw off and is an obvious detractor to our wellbeing.
Explore unhelpful or unrealistic beliefs, being aware of a tendency to hold oneself to impossibly high standards or perfectionism, and disinclination towards self-compassion. Important to challenge unhelpful thinking patterns like these.
- Aren’t you being a bit harsh on yourself? What would you say to a friend who is feeling like you?
- You may not have responded in an ideal manner, however was there anything that was good about what happened?
- You may not have responded in an ideal manner, however what can you say or do to recover the situation / relationship? How can you constructively make amends or alleviate the distress?
If it’s a more general disposition towards feeling guilty for past behaviour, it may be helpful to provide some refreshers on managing conflicts i.e. avoid laying blame, making generalizations, getting defensive/aggressive, watch tone of voice, volume of voice, pace of delivery, facial expressions, choice of language etc. – all of these can help minimise future likelihood of further bad feelings by diminishing the risk of inappropriate behaviour in the first instance. Similar work on strategies for regulating emotions in the heat of the moment might be useful.
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- Firstly, what sorts of thoughts, feelings or behaviours can you identify for yourself that may be unhelpful or detract from your wellbeing? If you listened to your inner critic, what nasty things does it say to you?
- How might you challenge or modify these thoughts and stop (disrupt) your unwanted behaviours? If you were being kinder to yourself what would you say or do?
Unhelpful thoughts, feelings and behaviours on a recurring basis can interfere with how we want to lead our lives and may be symptoms of anxiety or depression. Our thoughts are not always true and are often exaggerated; therefore it is helpful to learn to recognise your thoughts, challenge them, modify them, and practice new thoughts, determining to take a more self-compassionate view. (Professor Titov, 2013)
[/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”I feel stressed or anxious at work” _builder_version=”4.16″ global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]99% of stress is generated internally – but our bodies respond in the same way irrespective of whether the threat is real or imagined. Stress is a preoccupation with the self which is always about the past or the future, never the present. Therefore, making a concerted effort to stay present, in the minute without becoming preoccupied by the future or ruminating over the past is key to managing stress levels.
- How much of the time, to what extent and is it generalized or specific? How does your anxiety manifest itself?
Offer reassurance they are not alone: the prevalence of anxiety and depression in Australia is very common – around 20%; that means 1 in 5 of us may make sub-optimal decisions or choices that affect our life’s trajectory, at any one moment (Professor Titov 2013). Symptoms of anxiety include elevated levels of apprehension, restlessness, muscle tension and other physical symptoms of being in a state of over-arousal.
Offer further reassurance by sharing that many worries have a real basis and are a natural response at some level, and it’s only when worry is unhelpful to the extent of interfering with our ability to concentrate that it’s an issue. Even when this is the case, emphasise that there are practical and proven strategies that will help.
Explore with the individuals ways of more realistically calculating the likelihood of their fears being realised and the probability that they will be able to cope in the unlikely event that their worst fears do come true.
Even simpler strategies for shifting their focus away from the triggers of your anxiety and worry are also very effective, as a distraction from their worry.
Some people also find that setting aside a pre-arranged and scheduled time in their week (not before bed!) for Worry Time is an effective way of compartmentalizing their anxiety and channelling into a more constructive problem-solving outlet. It is reasonable to assume that many worries may be resolved if we try to find solutions.
Have referrals to clinical psychologist, psychiatrist or other mental health provider to hand, and handouts on depression checklist. Urge to seek support.
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- In what way?
- To what degree have you voiced your disappointment or concerns? (Many people engage in avoidance or safety for fear of making the situation worse. Encourage gentle challenge and gradual exposure to expressing needs and wants. May require associated work on linguistic and influencing skills – how to have ‘difficult’ conversations).
- What’s the worst that could happen if you did? How could you do so in a persuasive and assertive way, rather than in a way that is experienced as aggressive or complaining? What would have to occur to change the way you feel about how you have been treated?
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The key construct here is an emphasis on how we are going to be more than on what we are going to do (of course, not mutually exclusive). How we ‘show up’ determines the climate for ourselves and everyone around us.
- How can you signpost to others your intentions?
Having presence requires us to be fully present.
- When you walk into the office from a hard morning or after a difficult night at home, or come straight from one challenging meeting into another, to what extent are you running the risk of not being fully present?
- What can you do to be less preoccupied with what has come before and more focused on what is happening in the here and now?
May lead into conversation about mindful practice.
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We need to be able to recognize when we are experiencing an over-arousal of ‘fight or flight’ mode. Our bodies were never designed to use ‘fight or flight’ as a lasting or permanent state. Inner calm comes from developing the skills to slow down the brain and the body before we become overly anxious, to release the ‘fight or flight’ response. Otherwise, we have difficulty regulating our emotions, staying open and positive to experiences, concentrating, making sound decisions, attending to new information, learning, and remembering accurately and positively. Unless we dampen ‘fight or flight’ we get stuck on over-drive and are in a permanent state of anxious ‘high alert.’
- You’ve said you don’t feel you have much inner calm, how do you generally feel? What is effective in helping you relax and feel calm on the inside? What have you tried already?
- Do any of the following strategies appeal to you? Setting aside regular time to practice skills such as controlled breathing, meditation, mindfulness, challenging unhelpful beliefs or ‘acting as if’ you are relaxed and confident? They are all proven strategies when embedded into your daily way of being.
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- What are you afraid might happen? How likely is this? To what extent do you think you will be able to cope/manage if that does occur? What would you do?
- What underlying beliefs and assumptions are you making? How realistic or helpful are these? How might you modify them?
- What steps can you undertake to obtain more clarity about your situation, and if this is not possible, what can you do to alleviate your worry?
The issue for wellbeing is to develop some flexibility and willingness to adapt to life’s challenges and to ‘go with the flow’ supported by an underlying belief in one’s ability to cope and thrive in the face of adversity.
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Living Well
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- You’ve indicated you feel you don’t often manage to balance your own needs with the emotional needs of others…whose needs are most likely to be overlooked? How does this make you feel? What is the likely longer term impact?
If the individual’s, then he/she may have a passive style whereby others’ needs take higher priority than own needs, and others’ needs are satisfied at expense of own needs. Many working parents express that they focus more on the emotional (and practical) needs of others in their family (e.g. children and partner) and neglect their own i.e. rarely make time to do things for themselves, do everything for everyone else. Whilst highly nurturing, this can lead to being taken for granted and subsequent resentment.
- What assumptions or beliefs underlie this response? How might you challenge or modify these to adopt a healthier, more self-respecting position?
(If others’ needs are overlooked, then its possible the individual may have developed a dominant style whereby others’ emotional needs are not being respected.)
Either way, both of these styles are likely to cause detriment to the quality of relationships with key people in their lives with a knock on impact on their own emotional wellbeing, with the most extreme outcomes including martyrdom and /or being unloved or not cared for by others.
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- You’ve said you feel depressed at home… are you okay to talk about this with me or would you prefer not to? Seek permission, if not gained then must provide referral with STRONG recommendation to put in place, and then follow up on this after the initial feedback session – meeting your duty of care.
We purposefully use the word ‘depressed’ in a way that allows others to interpret in their own way.
- Whilst momentary feelings of being sad and down play a normal part in our emotional repertoire; being depressed such that it interferes with how you feel and live your life overall is a serious condition for which effective professional help is available and should be sought. I am keen to explore whether this is what you meant or whether you feel or know you are suffering from depression as an underlying illness? How does it manifest for you? What thoughts and feelings do you have?
- Most of us feel a bit low from time to time with the challenges that life throws at us. Was this what you had in mind, as a temporary feeling that comes and goes in relation to particular reasons and moods? Or is what you are feeling a more general and lasting sense of being down, maybe for no obvious reason?
For some people being or feeling depressed at home is associated with loneliness, for others it might be because they stop being ‘busy’ at home, as if life ‘stops’ when they come through the door, or the depressed feelings may be because of relationship difficulties with parents, children, partners, families. Or maybe there’s no obvious reason.
- Tell me a bit about what you meant?
Symptoms of ‘depression’ include fatigue, exhaustion, sadness, feelings of emptiness, helplessness and hopelessness, an under-arousal or slowing down of energy, motivation, brain and body. These difficulties can lead to unhelpful thoughts, feelings and behaviour that may lead in turn to a reduction in effort, leading in turn to further deterioration to thoughts, feelings and behaviours – a downwards spiral. It is vital to distinguish ‘having depression’ from ‘feeling depressed’.
Have referrals to clinical psychologist, psychiatrist or other mental health provider to hand, and handouts on depression checklist. Urge to seek support.
When feeling depressed, stimulating the brain and getting active –– increasing activities even when we might not really feel like it, is more helpful than resting and inactivity. Doing the opposite of what we might feel like doing!
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An emotion is a complex psychological state that involves three distinct components (Hockenbury & Hockenbury, 2007):
- a subjective individualised interpretation which is unique to each person’s experience
- a physiological response such as stomach lurch, sweaty hands, feeling sick, racing heartbeat, rapid breathing
- a behavioural or expressive response, including body language (smile, frown, fist pump)
Universal human emotions include fear, disgust, anger, surprise, happiness, and sadness, embarrassment, excitement, contempt, shame, pride, satisfaction, and amusement. Regulating our emotions – recognising what triggers them, accurately labelling what we are registering and feeling, appropriately moderating or controlling them, and the constructive expression of these feelings thereafter are key aspects of emotional intelligence, and may require specialist help and referral.
Being able to talk about how we feel, and what we need and want from others at an emotional level is an essential part of maintaining our wellbeing. This is because being clear and appropriately assertive in our communication style with others who are important to us in our lives may help us and them to solve problems and resolve conflicts that may arise, ideally before they become big issues.
Communicating constructively and assertively about our emotions does not necessarily guarantee we will get what we want and need but it at least enables us to tell others about our needs while respecting theirs. It is a skill that requires practice, especially if you are unaccustomed to communicating with the important people in your life, in this way.
One well established formula for expressing feelings and emotions constructively is as follows: ‘When XYZ happens, I feel ABC and the result is that MNOP’.
- What sorts of emotions were you thinking of when you were answering this question? What happens for you with these? What sorts of physical reactions do you tend to experience, and in what way do you react that doesn’t feel constructive to you?
- What could you do in the future to be more constructive in the way you express your emotions?
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An exploration of the respondent’s approach to managing stress and anxiety is valuable here.
- What prompts this feeling for you? What makes it worse? What lessens it? What alternatives are there for how you manage these situations?
Focus on breathing, meditation, mindfulness can be helpful here as well as a realistic evaluation of how much the respondent is trying to achieve in limited time – self-inflicted pressure might be key here. (Refer to expectations of success item in LW Meaning, Purpose & Direction)
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Familiarity breeds contempt and often we are harsher and more critical to our loved ones (and them to us) than we would be with strangers.
- What might help reset the atmosphere at home? What can be done to help you and your family be loving, kind, accepting, respectful and supportive with one another?
- What can you do at home that is enjoyable, with your family and/or giving each other freedom to do what one another enjoys?
- What can you change to make it feel more like a team that’s pulling together?
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A sensitive exploration of the things they feel guilty about neglecting is useful. Reframing expectations about being ‘super-woman/man/mum/dad’ may be helpful. Acceptance of what they can and can’t change at this point in their lives.
- Have you talked about this with other important people in your life e.g. partner? What other sources of support might be open to you to alleviate some of these feelings of guilt or sadness?
In an intractable situation, reframe what benefits there are from the status quo.
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Threats (worries, anxieties and negative emotions) come in the form of our thoughts and feelings about the situations we experience, the changes or demands that are to be met and our ability to meet these demands. These beliefs are what constitute our stress.
It is not an event that causes us to become anxious or worried – it is how we react to the event (i.e. our thoughts, feelings and behaviours). Aim to build your ability to cope in the face of adversity by consciously trying to bend and flex our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
- Can you identify the thoughts that are giving rise to feeling worried or anxious? What can you do to interrupt, stop or replace these thoughts?
Bring awareness to the internally generated hypothetical threats and recognise them for what they are, transient events in the mind rather than imminent threats to our safety.
- Can you recognise and allow/accept what you are thinking and feeling?
- Get curious about what might be behind your reactions? What beliefs might be being unhelpful?
- Focus on the breath – practice deep ‘belly’ breathing consciously for a few minutes a day, every day.
- Relax the body by taking a big exhalation, forcing some yawns, fiddling with our lips, consciously relaxing our tongue. Take a deep breath and make a space between stimulus and response.
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Look for positive facts, and let them become positive experiences; our capacity to notice and attend to the positive things that happen in our lives is an important driver of our wellbeing (Waters, 2013).
- If we forced you to look at what is going well in your life, what would you say? What might other people point to about you or the life you are leading?
Make effort to ‘stay present’ in the minute without letting our minds wander to dwelling overly on what has happened in the past or becoming preoccupied with worrying about what might happen in the future.
- Instead of thinking about all the negatives, how would it be if you were able to focus 100% of your mind on what is happening solely in this present minute?
Aim to combat ‘Negative Bias’ and practise ‘Taking In The Good’ (TITG).
- Can you pick out a positive from each experience or each day, starting with today and keeping this practice going for 3 weeks?
“Choose an attitude of gratitude and avoid the sentiment of resentment” (Waters, 2013).
- Try to remember and savour the good experiences: a practical exercise is to identify “3 good things” from every day, no matter how small, that you are grateful for having experienced.
Use these positives as antidotes to soothe and replace the negatives.
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- You’ve responded in a way that suggests some disappointment or lack of pride in what you feel you have achieved…are you okay for me to discuss this with you?
Encourage challenging unhelpful or unrealistic expectations of self, and modifying these to a kinder and more compassionate approach to self.
- To what extent might you be being overly harsh or unkind towards yourself? To whom are you comparing yourself?
- What character, skill or experience strengths and achievements can you recognise in yourself?
Explore whether adopting the concept of ‘Good Enough’ as an alternative to perfection might be an option. This is not about abdicating or dropping standards to accept mediocrity. It is about prioritising and being kinder in the demands we place on ourselves.
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We are masters at distracting ourselves but when we do avoid the big issues in life, the result for many of us is a subconscious harbouring of ever increasing subjective, objectless, diffuse feelings of angst or dread which unsurprisingly detract from our sense of flourishing. This takes the form of what some therapists refer to as ‘ontological anxiety’, a type of existential angst. This burden is alleviated when we face into the big questions about our future and any conflicts or challenges relating to our meaning and purpose in life. Additionally, suppressing our emotions makes us feel them more intensely and our response to them is stronger. (Ekman, 2013)
- Are there specific issues or challenges you are aware you are avoiding, or is it more of a general reluctance to think deeply about what matters most in life? Why do you think you are putting them off?
- What is the likely impact of continuing to avoid facing into these issues?
- Do you have a preferred approach to problem solving? Is there a framework or method you have used in the past they may work for you here? (Breaking problems down, identifying issues, brainstorming options, evaluating pros and cons, prioritising decisions, agreeing review periods etc.)
- When would be a good time over the coming weeks to allocate a time to sit down and contemplate these challenges in a structured and constructive manner?
- What help do you need? Where or from whom might you be able to get some support?
[/et_pb_accordion_item][et_pb_accordion_item title=”I worry about my finances” _builder_version=”4.16″ global_colors_info=”{}” open=”off”]Materialism and consumerism can be a path to misery – humans are prone to become grasping. There is a threshold level of financial security that makes you happier, but beyond that, it doesn’t impact.
- What is creating the pressure? What is your standard of living like? Are you open to revising your aspirations – what is really important to you? How much is ‘enough’?
(The worry may be indicative of higher security needs – derived from past experiences, or a general tendency to worry)
Financial planning assistance?
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Article by Peter Bregman, Harvard Business Review
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TED talk by Andy Puddicombe
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Article on what meditation does to your body
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Podcast by Susan David about emotional agility and how this can help us face life challenges
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A wellbeing insights article from EEK & SENSE
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A handout with some simple ideas to help manage stress and anxiety
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Practical handout which explores where self doubt comes from and how to use internal and external resources to manage this.
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A handout with quick and easy steps to stop the ‘stories’ spiraling out of control
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A handout to take deeper dive into this aspect of R & E
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Download “Headspace” app (free for part and a subscription to everything)
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Practical handout on using your breath
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Careful review of the other domains is needed before interpreting this section – consider the impact of ‘poor’ Vitality & Energy or Balance & Boundaries on general levels of anxiety and resilience and the ability to regulate emotions. In other words, without the right foundations of sleep, rest, nutrition and exercise it is quite likely that Resilience & Equanimity will suffer to some degree.
This comparison may help you to differentiate between temporary states of low resilience or mood versus a longer term predisposition towards anxiety, instability, depression or low emotional control. In either case, the strategies above may assist, especially in conjunction with the coaching points for Vitality & Energy.
As always and perhaps especially in this domain, be alert to the potential need to recommend further support from other professionals in relation to any red flags in this domain e.g. referrals to a GP, counsellor, clinical psychologist or psychiatrist.
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